Brighid birth affirmation cards

When you’ve been pregnant, how often has someone offered completely uninvited comments about your pregnancy or body?

You know the comments I mean. “Oh gosh, you’re so huge!” and “Are you *sure* there’s only one baby in there?!” or “I thought you pregnant ladies were supposed to glow!” or “But you’ve got two already, how on earth will *you* manage with a third?!”. How about “You want to home birth/hospital birth?! You’re brave, I would *never* put my baby in that risk!”. Or that childless friend who says “Wow, you’re enormous! You know your vagina is gonna be wrecked, right?!”.

You know, that stranger on the bus or the well-meaning family member who makes an offhand observation and then are totally oblivious to the effect that it has on us when they pass judgment and pick at us? Those comments that make us feel about 6 inches tall and leave us doubting ourselves and wondering oh shit, what if I can’t do this after all?

Yeah. Eurch. Those people are the WORST.

As a doula myself, I’ve seen first hand the incredible impact that negative and positive language and imagery can have on a pregnancy and birth. It’s one of the reasons that I love creating birth affirmations. I draw on the births I’ve served at as a doula, and my own experiences as a mother of three.

But you see, the thing is… we *can* do it.

We all have that steady flame burning inside us, refusing to be dimmed, refusing to do anything but be itself. That flame that quietly, calmly tells us screw them. You got this.

I’ve been inspired by that flame to create this newest set of WildCopperMoon birth affirmation cards, ‘Brighid’. Warm oranges and tonal reds feature on the backgrounds, each one with different words of encouragement and acknowledgment. Named after the Celtic goddess Brighid too, goddess of fertility, healing, and fire. Pretty damn ideal, right?


These are perfect for putting on your birthing altar, placing around your home or tucked into the corner of mirrors to remind you during pregnancy of your strength and to reaffirm your awareness of trust in your body, your birth, and your baby. (And they’re splash-proof too. Just in case.)

They make a wonderful mother blessing gift for an expectant person, or even as a thank you to your favourite doula or midwife.

And these are no teeny tiny cards either, these are A6 size, measuring 105 x 148 mm, and are professionally printed onto thick, glossy, 350GSM cardstock.

Affirmations included are;

– Actually, I can
– My courage is stronger than my fear
– My baby and I are a team. We burn brightly with strength, determination, and focus.
– I face the fire and do not burn
– You are enough. You are so enough. It is amazing how enough you are.
– I’ve got this
– Inhale courage. Exhale fear.
– Yep. This bit sucks. It will pass.
– H.O.P.E. Hold on. Pain ends.
– I am awake. I am aware. I am unafraid.

And if that wasn’t awesome enough, I also offer these as custom sets where you can choose whatever words you want to have on our pre-designed backgrounds. Want something sweary? We can do that! As long as it’s not racist, anti-women, anti-LGBTQ+, we can create whatever you want. Basically, we’re down with sweary, we’re not down with xenophobia and nastiness. (Unless you’re a Nasty Woman. Those we love.)

You need to embrace that flame. Feel that fire. Maybe use some carefully chosen swear words. Listen to bomb-ass music (like this ‘Slay Mama Slay’ playlist over on Spotify.

And then head over to WildCopperMoon on Etsy to buy yourself a set of these kickass birth affirmations.

WildCopperMoon ‘Brighid’ affirmation card set

WildCopperMoon CUSTOM ‘Brighid’ affirmation card set

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Rainbow Birth Affirmations

After the success of my yellow and green birthing affirmation card set, I knew I had to do something in a rainbow theme. As if by magic, the lovely Suzanne appeared and asked for a set of twelve affirmations, in a rainbow, for her to use with her pregnancy yoga clients.

So I set to work and created something that I’m really very proud of!

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The affirmations included in this set are;

– Birth is safe for me and my baby
– Each surge brings my baby closer to me
– I am awake. I am aware. I am unafraid.
– I am so strong
– I release my fear
– I trust birth
– I will give this birth everything I have. Nothing holds me back.
– It is safe for me to be happy during this pregnancy
– My breaths are long, slow, and relaxed
– One breath at a time
– My face remains soft and expressionless
– Welcome home to yourself

These are a wonderful gift for yourself, or for a partner or friend, and make excellent gifts for mother blessings.

The language we use during pregnancy and birth really can have a positive effect on our mindset, as well as being beautiful to look at. Simple little reminders to place around your home, bringing a little light as you move through your pregnancy, closer to birth.

These have been very popular so far, so much so that I had to order a second print run only 5 days after the first release! Sets are now owned by two local doulas, a pregnancy yoga teacher, and several Mamas.

You can purchase your own set over on my Etsy store HERE and as always, if the colours aren’t your bag, we can work together on creating a set just for you!

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Michelle’s Mother Blessing

Last year, I had the honour of being involved in the mother blessing of a particularly wonderful expectant Mama, Michelle. (If you’re not familiar with the idea of a mother blessing, do have a quick look over HERE to find out a little more.)

I’ve been given permission by Michelle to share some of the moments and images from that lovely gathering that I coordinated for her.


After lots of conversations, Michelle chose a colour scheme of cheerful golden yellow shades to bring joy and nurturing greens. These tones translated beautifully into the custom positive affirmations that I created for her.

Etsy Listing triptych - LR WM

After chatting about what her plans for this birth were and about what affirmations she would like, we focused on fear release and actively acknowledging and letting go of what has been, and moving forward into light and trust, with quiet, shining confidence. Michelle’s doula Liz also helped me with these, giving a little insight into the phrases that she was using with Michelle, adding another personal touch into them.

We also explored what Michelle wanted to gain from a mother blessing, what it meant to her, and she chose her activities accordingly.

On the day, I arrived early to help set up at Michelle’s home, bringing flowers and foliage with me and a vegan Oreo cheesecake I had whipped up.

Michelle’s guests began to arrive, women that she knows and trusts to support her, that she had chosen to be part of her intimate gathering, including three other pregnant mothers – pregnant women very nearly outnumbered the non pregnant ones!

Unlike a mainstream babyshower that often has a focus on giving gifts and playing games, a mother blessing often feels, to me, to be much more intimate. Typically, a mother will only choose women that she knows support her birth choices whole-heartedly, that she trusts, and feels good when they are around her. It would certainly be harder to relax and enjoy it if you’re worrying about a friend or family member whom you know doesn’t approve of your choices.

We went round our circle, introducing ourselves and how we know Michelle and then began to move into our group activities.

I had hand-dyed pure wool yarn as part of a web bracelet activity, where the women present passed the yarn between them, creating a circle that began and ended with Michelle. The yarn was then cut and tied round each woman’s wrist as a physical symbol of the circle of support between them, and for the mother to look at during birth and remind her of all the women that she is connected to, that are present with her in some way, lending their strength and sending their love.

I had created some threads for everyone to tie round a candle that Michelle already had, and each person tied their chosen thread round the candle, speaking their hopes and wishes and intentions for Michelle’s upcoming birth, aloud if they chose or silent if that felt more natural. A few mothers had brought their own charms to add as well, which made it even more special hearing about the meanings behind them. I had also created extra threads for Michelle, her partner, and her daughter to tie round, both for themselves and to represent beloved people who were over the sea or had passed away. Honouring ancestors and the women who came before you is a humbling way of realising just how simultaneously special and insignificant you are!



Michelle and her friends talked about their births, their words of wisdom, as well as some hilarious birth and pregnancy related anecdotes whilst we created birthing affirmations together for Michelle’s birthing altar.



We continued to talk as we settled into a guided meditation about letting go and fear release, which I had written specifically for the mother blessing. When it was concluded, we then had opportunity to ground ourselves by eating lots of delicious food that had been brought by the guests.

Then, Michelle’s doula Liz began hennaing her bump, with little details being added by each participant. A chance to have a few moments, one to one, just them and Michelle.





I also had the opportunity to capture a lovely, intimate moment between Michelle and Liz.


It was truly wonderful to be part of such a sweet day, and whilst I took many more photographs, I think these are the ones that best capture the energies that were swirling round us.

The power of women coming together to support one another during our times of transition, to celebrate one another, to hold onto each other when times are hard or hurtful or overwhelming, to build them up. It never fails to make my heart glow.



And in case you were wondering (which clearly you were!) Michelle, supported by her doula Liz, went on to birth her second baby, a beautiful daughter.

Photograph taken by Liz Pywell and used with kind permission from Michelle Blake

Photograph taken by Liz Pywell and used with kind permission from Michelle Blake

Photograph taken by Liz Pywell and used with kind permission from Michelle Blake

Photograph taken by Liz Pywell and used with kind permission from Michelle Blake


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If you’d like to find out more about mother blessings —> Mother Blessings

If you’d like to find out more about the birth affirmations I designed for Michelle —> Birth Affirmations

If you’d like to purchase a set of affirmations for yourself, or chat to me about creating a custom set just for you —> MamaPixie Etsy

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The Doula’s Tarot: The Heirophant

(To learn more about my motivations for this series, click here!)

Edited to add: This was written before the current issue of our independent midwives being prevented from doing their jobs and attending birthing mothers in ANY capacity due to a terrible decision by the NMC. I may write about this soon, but I need time to be a little less rage-y about it and be able to type straight! You can read more here.

So it’s a new year and time to really shift focus on our lives into what brings us joy, letting go of all the stuff (and people and friendships) that simply don’t fit any more. TO that end, I really do intend to blog more this year, but life has a funny way of putting the kibosh on any plans you make! I’ll talk a little more in another post soon about intentions for 2017, but for now, if you’re ready, let’s take a look at The Heirophant card as we travel through the Major Arcana of the tarot.

The Heirophant

The Heirophant represents an organised belief system. Although in a traditional deck this card is typically religious, in The Wild Unknown, it is represented by a crow carrying a key in her claws. This incarnation of the Heirophant is really a symbol for initiations of all kinds, joining a group to learn from those more experienced, and for me, being part of a bigger birth community, both for doulas across the country but also for the birthworkers of all kinds in my area.

For me, this was the point where I realised that whilst I had often eschewed larger groups of people because I simply didn’t like the ridiculous power plays that are all too often present, I was going to have to be part of a large group, as well as wanting to find someone informed and experienced to talk to. Someone holding the metaphorical informational key to getting me through the door to where I wanted to be. Who better than my own doula who had supported me in my most recent birth?

I spoke at length with Hannah. I think, at first, I was looking for approval and someone to tell me what to do. But a true teacher doesn’t tell you what to think. She gives you the tools and teaches you how to think.

I was then able to make decisions for myself and I really had to confront the idea that it was no one else’s decision for me to become a doula, but my own. A very powerful moment. I didn’t have to ask someone if I was ready or suitable to be a doula. I had to find the key for myself, not wait for it to be given to me. MAKE my own key.

The Hierophant card also represents the idea of working within the system, and the importance of experience. Whilst birth in the UK is often not as it should be, I simply cannot go about changing that by going in all guns blazing, all by myself. I can, however, signpost to information, and be part of a larger group of people all working for that cause. This might come in the form of the women who were on my doula training course, the York doulas, or the wider national doula community. I joined the admin of our local home birth support group and as of last week, haven’t missed a meeting in 13 months. I joined our local MSLC (Maternity Services Liason Committee). People are so much stronger standing together and this can work for or against you, and it can be hard when you feel like you’re shouting into the deafening roar of other people standing together who hold the opposing viewpoint (Hilary vs Trump, anyone? – what a mess that country’s gotten itself into).


But that’s the important word there. Community. This card, to me, doesn’t just represent organised belief systems. It’s a card that recognises the importance of community, seeking out like-minded people. And that extends further than just birth related and doula groups. It’s your family, the friends you choose to surround yourself with. I’m also proud to be a part of another amazing group with my Red Tent sisters. I was invited to join a very small, established group, and I couldn’t be more blessed to get to cultivate friendships with these phenomenal women. We lift one another up, and all our experiences and opinions are honoured.

When I originally wrote this for my Final Project, I had yet to actually attend a birth, and now that I’ve attended a couple, I’ve also come to start to truly understand the importance of working with our amazing midwives, both independent and NHS. That organised system can sometimes feel hugely unfairly weighted away from individual, informed, personalised, natural, unhurried birth, and the people working within it don’t train to be midwives to throw women on a conveyor belt, and they can feel as restricted as the parents using that service. My client doesn’t need to be worrying about anything other than herself and her birth. I remember the doula who ran my course saying to us that often we need to doula the midwives as well; they get tired, and stressed, and hungry, and if we take care of them, welcoming them warmly and quietly and genuinely into our client’s birth spaces, giving them the respect that their experience and training deserves, then we are more likely to get that back and have it extended to all present. Don’t get me wrong, nothing is ever all sunshine and roses, and the doula-midwife relationship is far more complex than that, but freely offering kindness and consideration to all isn’t a bad thing. Catching more flies with honey than vinegar.

But then, sometimes, that organised system needs challenging. That system may need shaking up, or reviewing, because it’s out-dated, based on an old and now disproven ideal, or because it is unfairly weighted towards a particular gender, or sexuality, or race, or religion. Sometimes we do need to work together to challenge what the system is doing or what it stands for or even what (and who) it stands on. And boy, is that hard. For example, I love the midwives I have worked with as a doula, but the system they work in is restrictive and deeply flawed. DEEPLY flawed. Sometimes, a mother may make a decision that isn’t what the System deems acceptable, and going against that, sometimes in the face of coercion, bullying, and opinions-presented-as-facts, is hard. It is hard at any time, but especially in pregnancy and birth, to have to fight battles for your autonomy and your right to make your own damn choices, even if they don’t fit with what the System wants. And sometimes as doulas, we are called on to create opportunities for women to empower themselves and support them, even if other people are telling them no or “you can’t” or “you’re not allowed”. And it can be intimidating and tough being in that space as a doula, even just as a human being.

I guess, ultimately, it’s finding that balance between building systems that are fair and actually work, both personally and further beyond, but then also being prepared to challenge what has been set as the status quo and finding a way to do that without become exactly as unfair as the system you’re facing down.


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Birthing Affirmations

I have always found that my mental state during pregnancy directly affects the births that I have. With my eldest, a negative and stressful pregnancy led to a similarly negative birth experience. Being in a much more joyful, strong place whilst pregnant with my eldest daughter resulted in a thrilling and happy (if not-to-plan!) birth. And then I have spoken often of the transformative power of birth that I experienced in my last labour.

A lot of that positivity came from within, my own peace as a human, as an individual, as a mother; simply knowing who I was gave me so much strength.

Equally, I had wonderful light and support coming from others. My husband, Stephen, lifted me every day. My doula, Hannah, held my hands and listened as I made plans. My friends came together to celebrate the unborn life and my steps towards her birth at a blessingway, complete with cake-stealing cat, henna, and a rather gorgeous crown!

I also created a birthing altar, a place in my home that was brimful of good vibes. I collected together birth related art, both prints and done by friends. My husband kept me well supplied in fresh flowers and candles. Quite simply, the act of surrounding myself with this positive imagery had a beneficial effect on my mindset.

I first realised the power that imagery has on us when I was a little girl reading Roald Dahl’s childhood autobiography, Boy. In it, he talks about how when his mother was in the last three months of her pregnancies, his father would announce that “the glorious walks” would begin. He would take her to places of great natural beauty, confident that the stunning surroundings was directly influencing his unborn child, filling them with joy and love and an appreciation for the world.

With that in mind, I had particular phrases I used to meditate on during pregnancy. Little affirmations to repeat over and over, like a mantra.

I am strong enough.

I am good enough.

One breath at a time - LR WM

The words we choose to use in pregnancy, and throughout our lives, can hugely affect us. If you constantly tell yourself that you are (insert whatever negative label you might lean towards using here), then that is how you’re going to feel. We are constantly bombarded with this overwhelming barrage of images of birth being hard and painful, filled with screaming and blood, which I am sure directly correlates to the amount of women who feel petrified heading into birth. One Born Every Minute has a lot to answer for.

Imagine if we approached our first births having only ever been told that women are strong, that birth is transformative, that you can trust your body and your instincts, completely confident in the knowledge that you WILL be listened to and respected throughout the entire process. Imagine if most births in the media were portrayed as active, moving around the birthing space, swaying and breathing, accompanied cow-type lowing, natural and uninterrupted. We would be in so much of a better place to bring another life into this world.

As a doula, I’ve seen first hand the incredible impact that positive language and imagery can have on a pregnancy.

A good example is the use of the word ‘contractions’. It brings imagery of tightness, closing up. It’s a tense word. Replace that with surges or waves and the images that come to mind are so very different. Waves brings beaches, that wave of intensity moving up and over your body, consuming you, and then washing away.

How about the word ‘labour’? It gives a feeling of hard work and toil, exhaustion. Using ‘birthing’ instead feels much more active, and yet feels softer in the mouth, softer in the body than ‘labour’.

It is so important to remember the power these words have during our pregnancies and births, and I found myself thinking a lot about designing my own set of birth affirmation cards. So I did!

I drew on my own birth experiences with my three children, as well as the births I have attended as a doula, and with lots of discussion with friends about what phrases and words they found inspiring, calming, and positive in their own journeys.

Within a mid-green and golden yellow colour scheme, each one has a different positive birth affirmation on it. These were originally designed for a mother blessing client, and the main focus of this set is fear release and actively acknowledging and letting go of what has been (perhaps a negative birth experience previously), and moving forward into light and trust, with quiet, shining confidence.

The idea that a Mama is seeing these strong, affirming words over and over in through her day, even if she’s not *actively* seeing them, those words are gently sinking into her psyche to rest in her subconscious.

This is just the first finished set, and I have another two in different colours and themes, with differing focuses in progress. Eventually, some of these affirmations will be available as art prints too, which I am crazy excited about!

Etsy Listing triptych - LR WM

The affirmations included in this particular set are;

– Birth is safe for me and my baby
– Each surge brings my baby closer to me
– I am awake. I am aware. I am unafraid.
– I am so strong
– I release my fear
– I trust birth
– I will give this birth everything I have. Nothing holds me back.
– It is safe for me to be happy during this pregnancy
– My breaths are long, slow, and relaxed
– One breath at a time

Ultimately, you can’t control something which has so much of a Wild aspect to it like birth naturally does. What you CAN do is bring positivity, reminders of strength, and encourage that trust in yourself and your instincts to your pregnancy, putting yourself in the best position possible to move into the final stages of bringing your baby earthside.

If you’d like to purchase a set for yourself, you can head on over to my MamaPixie Etsy store.

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The Doula’s Journey: The Emperor

(To learn more about my motivations for this series, click here!

The EmperorWhilst acknowledging the strength of women and empowering them, we also need to recognise the important role that men play in our births, and their role in relation to me as a doula.

The Emperor represents masculine energy in the form of the Father. The Sun, typically a masculine symbol burns above a wise, rooted tree. Intrinsically needed to make a baby, this card recognises the importance of stability and rules, the power of the group.

For me on my journey, this is where I spent a lot of time looking into the practical demands of being a doula, often with solutions and information coming from my husband, Stephen. It was the point where I realised that this was not just MY journey, that I was not on this path alone. It was something I was doing with Stephen alongside me, as with everything in our lives together.

Talking through with Steve, with him asking questions, helping me examine my motivations, really helped me to evaluate what I could honestly and practically give to training right now. He grounded me at a point where I needed it, where I was excitedly making plans without creating a strong foundation to work from. The earth to my fire.

In doulaing, this masculine presence is also important is several areas. You are not just supporting the mother, you are often supporting the father as well. You are a team. And even further than that, the phrase ‘it takes a village to raise a child’. Surrounding ourselves with positive people during pregnancy is so integral to a positive experience, those who support our decisions, build us up, nourish our souls and hold our hands. (It’s one of the reasons that I think every pregnant woman needs a mother blessing ceremony.)

It was at this point that it began to dawn on me that whilst my personal journey absolutely was about me, that doulaing simply wasn’t. It is about responding to the needs of all present in the birthing space, not just the mother, although that is your priority. Quieting the frizzy energy of a midwife who felt rushed in traffic or has had a crazy long day and wants to be home with her own family. Redirecting nervous energy from a father into constructive support, or helping a partner transform their fierce protection from aggressive into assertive. Filling wringing hands with purposeful work. It is about others. Moving in tandem with the mother’s partners, as well as her midwives, and doctors, if she has chosen to have them present.


Birth is the fine balance of multiple energies, swirling together to raise the mother up to the sun, connecting with that primal fire inside her, while she burns, ablaze in love and light and grace as she births her baby.


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The Doula’s Journey: The Empress

(To learn more about my motivations for this series, click here!

The Empress   

   The first person we recognise in our life is our mother.  The Empress represents the world of nature and sensation,  of abundance. It is the card of motherhood. If there is one  card that is the doula’s card, it’s this one. Not only that, the  imagery on this card of a tree with pink tips closely  resembles a placenta in my eyes!

   This card resonates with me for a few reasons. Firstly, I  am a mother myself. Being a parent is a huge part of my life  and is how I define myself and my place in this world. It is  not the only thing I use to define myself, but it is a very  large part of it. Everything I do, and every decision I make  is for the benefit of my children, the benefit of our family.

  Secondly, doulaing is naturally female-centric, a  wonderful acknowledgement of the power of women,  something that is sadly lacking in our modern society. It is  slowly being claimed back and explored further, but so  many women are lacking that link with others, especially  in the most womanly of arts; birth. Realising that women  need other women, on a spiritual as well as physical level  was amazing.

 (On a related note, when I do readings, this card  CONSISTENTLY comes up in every reading about  relationships with other women.)

   This card also represents me at this stage, deepening my roots and base into the earth, into those I trust, as well as reaching out my branches and arms to others for light and inspiration. It is so important to have a strong foundation to come from when supporting others, a network to doula the doula. Not only that, a strong knowledge base is essential to be well-informed and be able to signpost women to the information they need to make a confident decision

I spent a lot of time talking to other doulas, other women, and my husband about the possibility of training to be a doula, with positive responses. It strengthened my resolve and fed my soul to take another step on my journey, much like the light and water that a tree needs in order to grow.

For me to grow personally, I needed to reach a point where I wanted to train to be a doula, because I knew I could do it, not because other people thought I’d be good at it. Whilst that was encouraging to hear, ultimately, that decision was mine alone to make and I needed to do it for my own reasons and not because others thought it a good idea. It’s all very well being a tree in a forest, but if I lack my own roots, my own drive, my own convictions, I’m hardly going to get anywhere.

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The Doula’s Journey: The Magician and The High Priestess

(To learn more about my motivations for this series, click here!)

On the Journey, the first two cards encountered are the Magician and the High Priestess – the great balancing forces that make up the perceived world. The Magician is bathed in sunlight and looking forwards, the Priestess sits beneath a crescent moon and is gazing at the past.

This was an important step for me on my doula journey. Having spent my life in flux and hurt, I needed to get to a more balanced place in my life and within myself, in order to be able to focus on my training and eventually be able to give to others. The culmination of this healing was Gaia’s birth, truly a transformative moment!

Like the Magician with action and the Priestess with inaction, I have had to learn to accept what had happened in my past, particularly my first birth experience, and to use that to move forward positively. Finding the metaphorical ‘silver lining’.

When exploring the stronger and weaker balancing aspects of myself, I have discovered that I have a great capacity for love and sharing that with others. Alongside that though, is a need to feel like I am connected to others by bringing personal empathy. Whilst this is fantastic in general life, as a doula, I have to work hard on bringing that love and energy to the space, but not bringing with it the baggage and projecting my own personal experiences onto the mother. Connecting with them and being what THEY need at that moment. Giving without expectation of anything in return, simply for the joy of giving is something I am continually working on to benefit myself in my role as a doula. Indeed, it’s something that I strive to do in my everyday life. I’m an inherently selfish human being so I have to work hard to give and be generous with myself, my energy, my time, my money… My husband really inspires me to give always, without judgment, exactly something I need to bring to being a doula! (He’d make a brilliant doula actually!)

 The MagicianThe High Priestess